Practice what you preach

My darling daughter has shed most of her downy feathers and is busily flapping around the nest, anxious for a solo flight and, frankly, almost ready. My ability to embrace and actually enjoy this process correlates to my ability to suspend my fear and anxiety on her behalf. I find, when I look at her through more of a "friend" lens, that I can become engaged and excited about the endless possibilities which await her. The "mommy" lens, however, clouds and obscures the potential and joy and focuses in on the potential peril and logistical challenges.

It is a full time job currently, switching glasses.

I discovered something this weekend, however, in wearing the friend spectacles for a few days while she and I were having some fun two-girl time out of town. The uninterrupted ability to just appreciate and encourage who she was and what she wants to do and become for herself made me realize that I have stopped switching the focus on my own life. I realize that I have been wearing pretty dark shades to view who I am and what I am doing.

The spirit of adventure that I embrace on her behalf I have completely ceased to embrace on my own.

I, therefore, have reestablished for myself asking regularly the question "What CAN I do today?" as opposed to "What do I HAVE to do today?" It's making me a little giddy, so far, which, frankly, is kind of fun! Try it!

Things that can make other things better

Lots of good butter
Taking a deep breath
Apologizing
Listening
Garlic
Empathizing
Fresh herbs
Holding someone's hand
Not saying "I told you so"
Dark chocolate
Real cream
Withholding judgement
Smiling
A walk
Patience
Being quiet
Saying what needs to be said
Winking
A nap
Slowing down
Speeding up
Pushing through the pain
Knowing your limits
Fresh squeezed juice
Salt water
Moleskin
Saying "I know how you feel" when you really do
Being there
Rainbows
Icing
Wiggly slobbery puppies

A Gu Haiku

Like liquid courage
Thickly sweet I suck you down
Able to run on